10 Reasons a Man Should Lie to His Girlfriend 28/03/12
Dishonesty isn’t an admirable trait, and the health of any relationship depends on honest and open communication. Trust is an essential factor as well, yet there are times when a little white lie here and there might be less damaging than telling your partner what you really think. See what you think about these ten reasons a man should lie to his girlfriend:
- Cooking – She spends all day preparing a meal as part of a special evening she’s planned for the two of you. Dinner doesn’t turn out quite like the recipe had promised. Is honesty really the best policy when she asks you how you liked the cheese soufflé?
- Clothing – After she’s asked you to critique every outfit in her wardrobe, you just have to convince her that she looks absolutely stunning in that last one, or you’d never get out of the house. This is simply a case of handling indecision or insecurity for the sake of moving on.
- Conflict – An untruth can help stave off unnecessary conflict over a relatively unimportant issue. If the relationship doesn’t depend on a 100% honest answer to a question, which would lead to needless strife, then it’s not worth being honest about it.
- Weight – Tact often takes precedence over the truth. There is nothing to be gained, for instance, in telling her that she looks like she gained a few pounds, or that her butt looks too big in those pants. The truth is that she’s more likely to be seeking affirmation and support when she asks, than she is for an honest answer.
- Preference – As a subjective matter, if a man knows that his girlfriend would prefer not knowing the truth about a given subject, then he is simply honoring her feelings and preferences by lying to her. If it doesn’t endanger anyone or the relationship by withholding the truth, then it isn’t automatically a bad thing.
- Past – Withholding details about one’s past that are no longer relevant, and which pose no threat to anyone nor the relationship is okay, too. For instance, if you’ve done a few things in the past of which you aren’t particularly proud, full disclosure isn’t a requirement.
- Brutal – When telling her the truth would only serve to hurt her feelings, there’s no real up side to your being honest, and therefore no valid reason to let it all hang out. There are times when being brutally honest is just plain brutal, for the sake of honesty.
- Pain – Sometimes a fib can protect someone from a truth that they may not be able to bear. For instance, if you witness your girlfriend’s cat being mauled to death by a pack of dogs, it’s probably okay to let her believe that Fluffy died peacefully in the shade of an elm tree.
- Time – If she takes an excruciatingly long time getting dressed to go out, it’s probably a good idea to fib to her about what time you made those reservations for. She’ll catch on to this tactic after a while, of course, but if you’re lucky, it might eventually help her to shave some time off of picking out a pair of shoes.
- Stress - Most importantly, when she’s had a long, stressful week at work, and you’ve been sitting there watching her sleep peacefully; when she awakens in a panic and asks what time it is, don’t let on that it’s almost lunch time. Tell her it is 6 AM, and then go make her some breakfast in bed.
Honesty is the best policy, but that doesn’t always mean you have to tell everything you know. Keeping a few things to yourself is usually a good bet, as is glossing over the worst parts. Know where the line is drawn.